When Louise Joy Brown became the first baby born via IVF back in 1978 I don’t think any of us could have predicted that in a little under 40 years we would be reading Kyle Casson’s story.
As much as my heart goes out to people who are desperate to have a child, I do believe there are limits to how far they should go to have one.
In the case of Kyle, a single gay man whose mother gave birth to his surrogate baby, Miles, it just seems as though we, as a society, are demanding too much.
The belief we have a divine right to have what we want and when regardless of the ethics and morality of a situation is wholly worrying.
I’m sure that Kyle and his mother Anne-Marie are a fantastic dad and grandmother (or brother and mother depending on how you view the situation) to Miles; the photographs of the trio plastered across the pages of the Daily Mail appear to suggest so. However, no-one seems to have considered the long-term effects on the child.
I’m a single parent having left Master A’s father when he was two. His father and I never married; my son shares his surname not mine. Although, I don’t believe that there is any one “conventional” family set-up, with children in the modern classroom coming from all different home lives, I know that Master A struggles with his own story.
He often asks me why we he was born even though we weren’t married. These do make for some awkward conversations, mainly because he always looks so disappointed, confused, I feel somewhere that I have let him down.
By today’s standards our situation is “normal”. However, a grandmother carrying a donor egg fertilised by her own son’s sperm is most definitely not.
There will be no simple answers to the questions posed by little Miles about his mummy and daddy.
Kyle has reportedly said about his yen to be a father “as long as someone can provide for a child then they have every right to a child”.
Working Mum, hoping that little Miles will be able to cope with his story when he gets older.